20 Things I learned in my 20’s
–You’re perfect. Eat the pizza. I can’t believe I thought I was fat then. I remember being 21, pinching my sides in the mirror while I was a whopping size 2. Don’t be so hard on yourself and treat your body right. Your metabolism and energy levels may never be this high again so take care of yourself and enjoy the carbs while you’re at it!
-It’s going to be okay in the end If its not okay, its not the end. There are so many new beginnings and big ends in your 20’s. (Like seriously I am a cat with 9 lives) Don’t hold on so tightly to what you know right now and be okay with making the big changes when necessary. Don’t like the direction you’re headed? Change it! on a dime. Seriously run. In the other direction now.
– Better a bunch of “oh wells” than “what ifs” My biggest fear (second to sharks obviously) is regret. Be on a mission to have zero coulda, shoulda, woulda’s at the end of your life. That day dream you always return to… it will always fail if you never try.
-The best stain remover in a pinch Spill red wine and don’t have any cleaner on hand? Pour white wine right on top. No, Im not joking. They cancel each other out. Its like magic.
-Money is a tool not your task master In my 20’s I worked as a make-up artist, a cocktail waitress, a bookstore clerk, a retail personal shopper, a licensed esthetician, a financial advisor, a student loan specialist, a nanny, and a hot air balloon tour guide. (Just to name a few) I took jobs that made money so that my money worked for me, getting me to where I wanted to go and closer to what I wanted to do. Its okay if you don’t know what you want to do for the rest of your life yet. Its okay to try something and change your mind, and its okay to unapologetically LOVE what you do to make a dollar, even if it doesn’t make sense to the rest of the world.
– Hang dry your underwear They last longer that way. I recommend the shower curtain rod. Seriously.
-Watch your Mom cook Most of my calls home from college consisted of “how do you make that thing I love again?” In hindsight, perhaps some of those nights out bellying up to the bar with strangers could have been used more wisely bellying up to the stovetop with my Mama.
-Let him pursue you Its SO embarrassing thinking back on how I would throw myself at men in my 20’s. Im shocked I didn’t break my neck with all those dramatic hair flips I used to throw ’round town. The right guy, the one who will stay, the one who will cherish you and adore you, is the one who will chase you down and not take no for an answer. Let him court you and then you decide if he is worthy of your hair flips or not.
-The best kind of iron Wrinkled clothes and in a rush? Hang them on the back on the bathroom door while you shower. The steam gets out the wrinkles while you wash up.
– Don’t be rude. People will forget your grades, your clothes, your popularity, your accolades but they will always remember how you made them feel. Being sassy can be fun and playful but being rude is obnoxious. Stop it. You’re too pretty for that.
-Fresh flowers always I went through seasons of being really really broke to living a very high life in my 20s. Regardless of the budget, Iwould always keep fresh flowers around my room, apartment, home. For me its the one thing that I can look at daily that makes me smile and keeps me inspired. Find your thing (whether it be candles, music or chocolate chip cookies) and make it a nonnegotiable in your budget. When you are in the midst of transition its so important to know what ties you down.
-Visit your Grandparents You’ve got so much to learn from them and they won’t be around forever.
–Meats and cheese Studying and need a snack? Meats and cheese. Unexpected guests on their way? Meats and cheese. Hosting a girls night? Meats and cheese. Invited to a party? Meats and cheese. No time to cook? Meats and cheese.
-Wear sunscreen EVERY freaking DAY The sun spots you see on people twice your age are from the fun in the sun they had in their 20’s. Do yourself the biggest favor and wear sunscreen 365 days of the year. You will be SO happy you took care of your skin now!
-Get back to people Want to get the job, move ahead, make big waves in this life? Start by following through with all (yes- all) of your commitments and build a reputation of being good on your word. You will stand out head and shoulders amongst your peers if you simply do what you say you are going to do.
-Toothpaste makes great spackle Want to get the entire security deposit back but your roommate nailed posters on their wall? Toothpaste makes the perfect spackle dupe for nail holes and the room smells minty fresh for your final walk through. *Ka-ching*
-Back up all your photos You’re going to want to show your kids these pictures one day so print them out, pay the extra .99 cents for storage on icloud and make sure they are secure for safe keeping.
-Pray There are a lot of ups and down in your 20s! There will be things you cannot change and people you cannot change and lots of difficult choices you’ll have to make. Praying makes the impossible possible. It brings heaven down into your circumstances no matter what they look like here on earth. Don’t know what to do or think you can’t go on another day? You’ve got so much life ahead of you and so much to live for so pray and pray some more until things change. and then- pray again.
-Put a cork in it A metal spoon in the neck of lets say a champagne bottle replaces a rogue cork while keeping the bubbles from going flat. You’re welcome.
And lastly… Find your Purpose. My pastors always say the two most important days in a persons life are the day you were born and the day you find out why. When you find that thing that makes you come alive inside, the thing no one could pay you to stop doing, that thing that serves others and forces you to live a life bigger than yourself- don’t. let. go. That is the very thing you were created to do in this life and you’ll never find more fulfillment (even when its tough) than doing that one thing. So do it. Do it with all your heart.